Aug 4th, 2020: Falling Out of Love

 

 

 

Falling in love is a thrilling experience. It is one that captures all of our senses so that we find words inadequate to express how we feel. Falling out of love is another story. Words came faster than we imagine, and they are insufficient to express our emotions. I am in a business that I witness both scenarios often enough in my counseling with people. Sometimes we can see many similarities between those relationships and our relationships with God.

We don't have anything in common is what I usually hear from couples who are struggling with their marriages. What they really say is that they have no interest in one another and begin to live separate lives. It is even more challenging when one is trying, and the other is giving up. God is always trying to get our attention, but we would not pay attention and even condemn Him. The bible burning incident in Portland confirmed that.

We don't talk to one another anymore is another statement. Some couples would not interact very much or not at all at the dining table. They can hardly wait to get away to their own private corners of their house. They learn to abandon one another emotionally. When they can communicate, it tends to deal with shame and blame. I know some Christians got into that position because of their intense suffering. It is worse than hating God. They have become indifferent to God.

What is the point of trying? Nothing is going to change. It is another expression that I have heard often. It sounds defeated. Most of the time, people say this to one another because they are frustrated, not just at the other person but also themselves. That statement sometimes leads to this one: "No matter what I try, I am never good enough." The only hopeful thing about this is there is still some desire to care. We can hear this kind of talk within ourselves in our relationship with God. It expresses our disappointment with God and with ourselves at the same time.

Falling in love with God is to believe that God thinks that we are loveable, and He will do anything to be at the same table with us and have an in-depth conversation about our life, our joy, our hope, our pain, and our disappointment.

Isaiah 41: 10

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."