Aug 10th, 2021: Avoiding Harsh Words and Be Encouraging

 

Harsh words are damaging. When these words come from people supposed to support and care for us, it is more painful. They can destroy personal dignity, wellness, and hope. E

ncouraging words have a completely different impact on our lives. They take us where we doubt that we can go on our own. They are the power behind many of the 2020 Olympics champions.


As we listened carefully to athletes during their interviews after winning their medals, we could always hear about people who had helped them along the way. They talked about their parents, mothers, coaches, friends, and communities that have believed in them. Kelsey Michell insisted during her interview that it was a team victory won the Gold medal in the women's sprint's event in cycling. She then talked about her family, friends, and her sports community. Ms. Mitchell didn't even know anything about cycling until 2017. She is now an Olympics champion because of the encouragement and support from these folks.


God always speaks the truth to us in order to restore us. When we are willing to condemn others, remember the teaching of Jesus in John 8:7 - "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone ."

 

There is a difference between confrontation and condemnation, reasoning and judgment. There is also a difference between guilt and conviction.

Words of encouragement don't overlook our struggles and lack of godliness. They will help us face our lack of truth with confidence in the grace and the mercy of God. We need to remember that God doesn't enjoy watching us being away from Him in our suffering.


God always sees our worth because He created us. No one else has such a claim. When others reject us, we need to remind ourselves of that truth. So let our words be truthful, restoring, and encouraging to one another. Harsh words can kill the goodness of our human soul.





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